My best friend told my crush how I felt without asking me then argued she did me a favor

Me and my best friend have been close since seventh grade. Four years. She knows everything about me. There's this guy in our friend group I liked for a while but never said anything because I didn't want to make things weird. I finally told her about it over FaceTime and literally begged her not to say anything. She promised. She told him anyway. Not a rumor, not a group chat. She went directly to him and told him how I felt. I found out because he started acting weird around me and eventually someone else told me what happened. When I confronted her she didn't deny it. She said she was tired of watching me do nothing and that I'd regret it if I never said anything. She genuinely believes she was being a good friend. We got into a huge fight. She kept saying I should be thanking her, that I was being a coward, that she just did what I couldn't do myself. I told her she had no right to make that decision for me. She said I was being ungrateful. We haven't talked since. I started thinking about whether what she did came from a good place or whether a good place even matters if she still crossed a line. She didn't ask me. She didn't warn me. She made a decision about my feelings without my permission and then expected me to be grateful for it. Talking it through helped me figure out what I actually wanted from the situation. Not revenge, not a big blowup, just a real apology and for her to actually understand why what she did hurt. We agreed the best next step was to go to her directly and tell her exactly that. Not over text, in person. I wasn't going to ask her to agree with me or relitigate the whole thing. Just tell her I needed a real apology, not a justification, and that I wasn't going to pretend everything was fine until I got one. I also decided I wasn't going to avoid my crush or make it weird. Whatever happens there happens. But I'm done letting someone else's decision about my story be the thing that controls how I move.